I Didn’t Want to Foster

Becoming a foster family requires a lot of training!  We spent the Fall taking classes on how to care for children who have had traumatic experiences.  These classes were incredibly, emotionally draining but extremely important.  We feel so much more prepared and capable of caring for children’s needs, but we also know that we probably won’t feel that way when we are actually faced with being a foster family!

We are so blessed that our entire family is supportive of our call to foster and adopt!  Jeremy’s family is so encouraging of our journey.  In fact Jeremy’s brother and sister-in-love are fostering as well.  Since my parents live with us, they were required to take the classes with us, week after week of training and so much homework!  Our children are excited as well.  When we spoke to the kids about the difficulties of fostering, we asked them whether or not they wanted to foster.  One of them responded:  “Who wouldn’t want to be a foster family?!”

Honestly, for a long time I didn’t want to be a foster family.  Making the decision to foster was extremely hard for me.  On one hand I am tired of waiting for our adoption, and I want to help a child in need NOW.  On the other hand I felt like deciding to foster was giving up on our adoption.  Fostering can certainly lead to adoption, but that is not its purpose; the hope for fostering is that a child can return to their biological family.  I still hope and believe that the Lord will allow us to provide a forever home for a child, and that very well may happen through fostering.  But after much prayer, I knew that we were to foster.  How could we not provide a safe and loving home for a child who needs one, whether for a short time or a long time?  Thankfully the Lord has changed my heart, and I am now so very excited to foster!

So what are our next steps?  This week we will take a one day child/infant CPR and first aid class, as well as a water safety class (since we have a pool).  Then we will have to redo our homestudy, which will require background checks (for all those in the home over 18), clearance from our doctors, and for a social worker to do at least two home visits.

We are also working hard at getting our house ready to accommodate more children!  Many of you know that our home is commonly in various stages of disarray.  We are working so hard to get our home into a nice condition, not just for fostering but also to improve our everyday life.  I so want to be organized, and I think having a strict goal date is helping me to really get it together.  Our first homestudy visit is Tuesday, February 27.

We want this process to move super quickly, but we also know that life rarely works that way for us!  We have also decided to stay in relationship with our adoption agency because we do not want to close any doors to what God’s plan may be.

So here we are again, continuing to wait and trust the Lord!  This is truly the story of our lives and our faith.  As frustrating as the waiting can sometimes be, I know that is where the Lord so often grows me the most.  So grow us, Lord; and let Your will be done in our lives.  And help me to wait for You because sometimes it is so hard!


We’re Back!

I knew that I had not blogged in a very long time, but when I logged into our blog site, I was shocked to realize that it had been more than a year!  I really love to blog, but I often struggle to know what to write since our adoption story seems to have so many long pauses.  So many long pauses!  I am going to try to write more often.  And thankfully, I do finally have some news to share.

First let me start with some family news.  We bought a house!  In all of our years of marriage, we have only ever rented.  Our new home is beautiful and perfect for us; we are thrilled and thankful that the Lord gave us this blessing!

Another awesome change is that my parents have moved in with us.  This decision has been a real blessing for us all!  Our home has an “in-law” area so that we all have our own personal space, but we share common areas.  The kids love seeing Mimi and Papa everyday!

And now for the adoption news:  After much prayer we have decided to become a foster family!  We are thrilled to be partnering with the Alabama Baptist Children’s Home (ABCH).  The ABCH will give us a great opportunity to care for children while providing us with amazing support, prayer, and encouragement.  We will be fostering and also hope we will foster to adopt.

In order to keep this blog from being crazy long, I am going to give you all of the foster care details in our next blog post.  Thank you to all of you who have prayed for us and supported us during this long, crazy journey.  Sometimes it seems like we will never get to adopt, but I know that God is on the move!


Important Info on the Family Movie Event!

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A movie about time travel, weird inventions, singing frogs, and a kid who needs a family! What could be better?

The Family Movie Event is tomorrow–Saturday, January 21 from 3-5!  We will be at Frazer Church  in the Surge Children’s Ministry Room.  There will be a lot of traffic at Frazer that day because Distinguished Young Women is also being held there. Your best bet for parking will be to park in the lot behind the church.  Come into the atrium, and go up the stairs behind the submarine slide.  We can’t wait to see you there!

Concessions will be sold, and a love offering will be taken to support our adoption fund!

Remember that tickets are free and can be grabbed at the door, but reserving tickets helps us to plan ahead.  Reserve your tickets here:



We Need Your Help!

Our Family Movie Event is coming up soon!  Please join us for a showing of Disney’s Meet the Robinsons on January 21 from 3-5 at Frazer United Methodist Church.

We are going to have an amazing time!  Tickets are free, and we will be selling concessions.  A love offering will be taken to raise money for our adoption fund.

You can get tickets at the door, but it would really help us to plan if you would get your tickets ahead of time.  Here is where we need your help!

1.   Reserve your tickets on Eventbrite.  Here is the web address:  https://www.eventbrite.com/e/family-movie-night-tickets-30467741836

2.  Post information about the Family Movie Event on your Facebook page.  We need your help to spread the word!  Don’t forget to include the link to reserve tickets.  And please tag us in the post so we will know.

3.  Come have a great time!!!


Thanks for all of your support and help in bringing our baby home!  We are so grateful that all of you are a part of our baby’s story!

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Merry Christmas and Happy Movie!

Merry Christmas, and Happy New Year! I hope that your holiday season was blessed! We have had a wonderful time visiting family–grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins.

Christmas time is always a little bit bittersweet for me. We have the best time celebrating our Lord’s birthday with family. But every year I miss our adopted baby, and I wonder how much longer we will have to wait until our family grows through adoption.  I have to continue reminding myself that God has a specific child for our family. I just have to trust Him and wait for our child to be born. Nothing I can do will rush God!

In the meantime I do have happy news!  We have wanted to hold a family movie event for around two years, and it is finally happening!  On Saturday, January 21 at 3 p.m. we will be hosting a showing of Disney’s “Meet the Robinsons” at Frazer United Methodist Church. The church is graciously allowing us to use their facility.

Tickets are free! You can get tickets at the door; but getting them ahead of time will help us prepare. You can reserve your free tickets on Eventbrite. The link is at the bottom of this blog.

We will be selling concessions to raise money for our adoption fees. A love offering will also be taken.

We hope you come out to join us for a super fun afternoon. And invite friends! We would love for this event to spread the word about orphan care as well as be an awesome event for families!

“Meet the Robinsons” is our favorite adoption movie. It is hilarious, heart-warming, and a blast for all ages! We can’t wait to see you there!

Get your free tickets at the link below:



Hills and Valleys

The last few months have been interesting for us.  Usually life goes along normally until something big happens.  But over the last few months, we have had an insane number of hills and valleys.  Life has felt like a roller coaster–not the exhilarating and happy ones. Life has felt more like the roller coasters that are awesome and then make you feel like you might die of terror and stress.

I won’t dwell on our valleys here.  They were extremely difficult, frustrating, exhausting.  But I don’t want to focus my thoughts on that.  I want to focus on our Lord God who saw us through.  How amazing is it that God uses difficult times to draw us deeper into intimate relationship with Him?  He is so gloriously kind!

The Lord has poured on great blessings over the last few months.  He was with me in the hard times; and He is walking with me step by step into healing, steadily freeing me of fear.  We went on the best beach vacation ever.  Then we went to Disney World.  My kids actually love homeschool this year.  I went away overnight for a women’s conference.  I got to host Thanksgiving with my parents and five international students.  But one of the best highlights was that our two oldest sons were baptized!  What joy!

I wish that I blogged more, kept you all more up to date with what is happening.  In truth I haven’t known how to write about our roller coaster life.  So I have decided to touch base with you to tell you this:  God is faithful and good.  He keeps His promises.  And we can trust Him.

We are still waiting to get chosen by a birthmother.  I had a great talk with our social worker the other day, and she is actively waiting with us for the right birthmother to come along.  God has His plans.  He is faithful and good.  He keeps His promises.  And we can trust Him, even when the waiting is hard.  We have a lot to be thankful for.  Love to you all.


P.S. I just realized that I never updated you about our card fundraiser.  The sale of the cards brought in more than $200!  We are so blessed.  Thank you so very much for your support.  We are even more grateful for your prayers.  Please continue to pray for us and for our child’s birthmother.


Greeting Card Fundraiser

Our greeting card fundraiser will be extended for a few days, but it is coming to a close very soon!  If you are interested in purchasing a box of these beautiful cards, let me know on FB or comment here on this blog.  We do need more orders for the fundraiser to go through!

The cards are so beautiful! 30 cards for only $33 (for locals)! If you need the cards shipped, the price is $43. Even with shipping the price is still only around $1.43 a card!