Family Vision

Our homestudy meeting was not the only huge development in our adoption process over the last few weeks.  We also finished our adoption profile.  The profile is kind of like a scrapbook of our life that birthmothers can look through, so that they can imagine what their child’s life would be like with us.  We probably spent around 40 hours working on our profile.   Making the profile didn’t seem like it would be that complicated, but it really was.  We had to pick pictures and figure out how to use Photoshop.  But this was nothing compared to the time and effort we spent in prayer and discussion.  I think that this step in the adoption process was one of the best things we could have ever have done for our family.

Jeremy and I spent hours discussing what we wanted our birthmother to know about us.  What were the best things about our family?  What are our hopes and dreams for our children?  What could we promise the birthmother of our child?  The decision she has to make is so difficult that I cannot begin to imagine it.

The birthmother of our child will make an adoption plan because she wants what is best for her child.  To allow another family to parent your child is heart wrenching.  But how do you choose which family is the right one?  And how can we encourage our child’s birthmother and let her know what her sacrifice means to our family?  These are just a few of the questions we have been praying over for weeks.  Now that we have some answers, I’d like to share them with you.

Overall, we want our birthmother to know that our family is happy and loving, full of fun, music, and laughter.  We want her to see pictures of us in real life, being our true selves.  We want her to understand that her baby will be loved by more people than just us.  Our child will be loved by big brothers, grandparents, aunts and uncles, cousins, friends, and an amazing church family.

We want her to know that we spend a lot of time praying for our current and future children.  Our hopes and dreams are for them to…

  • Be secure in our love and the love of Christ
  • Have an intimate relationship with Christ
  • Be confident in who God made them to be
  • Have lives full of faith, hope, love, and joy
  • Be kind and compassionate, standing up for what is right.

We promise that we will provide whatever education our children need and want.  And we commit to pray for our child’s birthmother and talk with our children about her.

We have no idea how long we will have to wait for our son or daughter.  It may take a couple of years, or he or she may have already been conceived.  Please pray with us for our future child and for our child’s birthmother.  Pray for our child’s health and safety.  Pray that the Lord will help our child’s birthmother makes good decisions, that she will be supported and know how much God loves her.  Pray for our fundraising efforts.  And please pray for us as we try to wait patiently for the day we can hold our baby in our arms.


Faith and Action

I want to apologize for not keeping everyone informed about the huge event we had two weeks ago.  That’s right.  We finally had our homestudy!  And in truth it was just like I expected, not really a big deal.  There was an insane (months long) build up, during which we were rescheduled twice, for a completely laid back 40 minute visit.

I felt completely crazy for much of the preparation time.  But my ridiculously high stress level brought me to a place where the Lord could teach me much that I needed to know.  I am doing a Bible study on the book of James and have spent many weeks studying faith.  The week before my homestudy, I learned something that helped me understand my faith struggles a bit better. 

You see, I have complete faith in Christ.  I am not someone who needs all the answers, who struggles with God’s goodness or His power.  I am a lot more simple than that.  I also have a firm belief in His sovereignty; I know that He has a plan for our lives, a good plan I can trust in.  Yet so often my actions show that my heart is full of worry and stress and fear.  This disconnect is what I did not understand.

But then I learned that W. E. Vine (a Bible scholar) says that faith has three elements:   

  1. A firm persuasion 
  2. A personal surrender
  3. A conduct inspired by such surrender

Apparently true faith, true belief, includes all three of these elements.  I have the first two elements but not the third.  For the Lord to fully develop in me a conduct inspired by faith is going to take time, but now at least I understand what I am missing.  I know what to pray for, and that brings me a lot of peace.