About a month ago I shared that we are refocusing and prioritizing on what the Lord has for our family. Jeremy and I read an amazing book called “The 3 Big Questions for a Frantic Family” by Patrick Lencioni. The book discusses how a business works hard to run efficiently and effectively but that most of us run our families haphazardly with very little plan or forethought. I know this is often the case with us; we are incredibly frantic at times, sometimes just surviving moment to moment! Lencioni shares three questions for each family to ask, questions that will help families follow the path God desires for them. I cannot stand books that tell you how you must run your family or that to be a good parent you must follow these certain rules. “The 3 Big Questions for a Frantic Family” DOES NOT do that. The books’ purpose is to offer a framework that gets you thinking about what you want for you family and how you are going to accomplish it.
The first question is “What makes your family unique?” The purpose of this question is to help you narrow down what is most important to your family. This helps you to prioritize, to remove the things that don’t matter so you can focus on what does.
The second question is “What is your family’s top priority–rallying cry–right now?” Every family needs a single, agreed-upon top priority, something to rally around for unity and maximum impact. The rallying cry should be something you can accomplish together in two to six months. In order to accomplish the rallying cry, you must make a plan and set up defining objectives, which are just basic categories of things you’ll have to do if you are going to meet your goal. In addition to this you will need to identify your standard objectives, the regular things you have to do every week in order to function successfully.
Question three is “How do you talk about and use the answers to these questions?” Lencioni recommends a very, very short (i.e. 10 minute) meeting once a week to review. We are having our meetings on Sunday evenings. We look over our objectives and grade ourselves on each one for the week (doing well, needs more work, in danger of not being accomplished).
I want to share with you all our Family Plan because we feel that accomplishing it is necessary for us. We have only been working on it for a week and a half, and so far it is going well. But we need encouragement and accountability to succeed! So please ask us about it and help to hold us to a high standard. We want to do whatever we can to be the family God wants us to be.
Lynch Family Plan
1. What makes the Lynch family unique?
Our FAITH is the foundation of everything we do. We place special emphasis on maximizing the time we spend as a family, striving to make memorable moments. With the prayer, love, and support of our family and friends, we are following God’s call to adopt.
2. Our Standard Objectives (the things we have to keep up with every week):
FAITH, Family and Marriage, Home Administration, Finances, Health and Exercise
3. Our Rallying Cry (the goal our family will come together to accomplish):
By Christmas our family and home will be more organized and efficient.
Defining Objectives (how we will work to meet our rallying cry):
1. Establish a consistent family schedule.
2. Establish a toy zone.
3. Clean out garage.
4. De-clutter house.
5. Limit incoming stuff.
6. Eliminate time wasters.